Maybe I saw my dead father... but I can't believe it now
(posted originally on Bubblews)

When my father died, in the night before his funeral, I woke up feeling someone was tucking me in. As I was opening my eyes I saw a male figure leaning to me, my father figure, or at least that was what I interpreted it. It was just a shadow. When I ended opening my eyes he disappeared.

That day, it was 15 year ago, I was sure that it was him. It comforted me and made me endure the funeral with almost no tears.

But with time, I started to think of the all experience has a trick from my brain.
I was in pain that day.

Suffering the lost of a loved one, and my brain gave me something to comfort me, to make me overcome the pain, to give strength to survive and to live.

Death: Pain does not pass, you just find a way to live with it.

(Originally posted in Bubblews)

Sixteen years ago my father died.

People say "pain will pass with time". You know what? it doesn't, not mine, anyway... pain is always here you just find a way to live with it. You are able, with time, to ease the suffering, yes, but you always keep the pain and, sometimes, you just have to cry again.

Maybe it is only me. I didn't cry a lot after his dead and in his funeral.

He was a Portuguese Air Force helicopter pilot and, during the all ceremony I didn't cry much, just dropped a tear in the moment the helicopters passed over (in a tribute to him) and in the gun salute... that was it... But I've cried frequently ever since.

Pain does not pass, you just find a way to live with it.

Why praying to the dead?

(originally posted in Bubblews)

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Some people believe that the dead can still listen to us and, believing that, we don't know what they are going through, their souls might be in suffering, might be stuck in a reality where they no longer are.

Believers pray for the dead to let them go. It's a way to tell them they are no longer among the living, but those who are still remember, so they can rest in peace.

Other ways of praying to the dead is when people pray to Jesus or Mary, or any other so called saint which were, once, living people.

Even though believers think those souls are in peace, they had no sins, they pray to them for help. Sometimes people also do that with loved ones... for help and comfort of the living and not to change the final destiny or comfort the dead.

Home Birth: yes or no?

Would you have a home birth? Do you believe it is safe? Would you risk your child life (and your own)?

When I think about home birth, if I only think about myself I have to agree with it. It must be much more comfortable, much less stressful, and much more respectful for the mothers time, ideas, pain. You are at your own home, with a trained midwife. Chances are everything will go well and you will have a great labour experience...

BUT what if there is a complication? One no one saw before? One that just happened in that moment and the baby needs to go to the emergency room to be saved? The time spent taking him to the nearest hospital is fatal, and the baby dies... Would you forgive yourself? Do you risk it?

When considering the mother's comfort and the baby's safety, I'll always choose the baby's safety... ALWAYS. If that means that I have to endure a stressful and painful experience, with a lot of medical intervention that I consider unnecessary and excessive, I will. My child safety, comfort and life will always be my priority.

Do you believe in Life after Death?

A study from Southampton University came to the conclusion that people may retain consciousness, after death, for longer than is was previously believed.

Scientists studied more than 2000 people who went through cardiac arrests and were clinically dead before the doctors were able to restart their hearts.

Some say they saw fields of flowers and tigers and other animals.

And some people described watching, from a corner of the room, of from above, what the doctors and medical staff were doing to their bodies, their attempts to resuscitate them until they did.

By the descriptions scientist concluded people were aware to up 3 minutes after their hearts stopped beating and although, normally, the brain shuts down after 20 to 30 seconds.

Read more about this in: http://www.southampton.ac.uk/mediacentre/news/2014/oct/14_181.shtml#.VIhBstKsVMs

This text was originally posted, by me, on bubblews